It’s day 201! I want to talk about connection. I’ve never been a social butterfly. I am an introvert through and through that’s learned extravert skills over time. But I still only have a few close friendships, my partner and my adult daughters that I really care about. And of my close friendships, I don’t see them very often. Maybe a few times a year.
I started listening to podcasts a few weeks into my alcohol free journey. I remember a specific episode of The Unruffled talking about how you needed to find in person sober connection. How it was critical. I thought – oh, hell no! Absolutely not! I am an introvert and I am going to do this thing on my own. I can get everything I need from quit lit books and podcasts. I don’t have bandwidth or desire to make friends.
Then I discovered the sober community on Instagram. WOW! My virtual sober friends have been key to my success. Seeing their successes and challenges and having them cheer on mine has been invaluable. I would never have made it this far without them. I remember somewhere around 60 days, thinking I can probably moderate now and seeing a post from someone who had decided to go that route. They later posted the regret and it helped me decide to skip the moderation idea I was having and just keep going forward. Had I not seen that posted, I might have ended my journey then and there.
I’m now ready to take the next step and start making in person sober connections and friendships. I desire authentic communication with people who understand why I’m on this path, who have had similar struggles and are on their own journey to being their best selves.
So Sondra and Tammi were right. Sober connection is critical. And I think I’m finally ready to bring it to my real life world.